Lately I can’t help but wonder what you are supposed to do when you don’t have much in common with friends. After coming home, and unpacking my life so that it is not in the box of a college mind set*. I can’t help but have this feeling that I have nothing in common with some of my friends, especially ones in my age group. Besides the basics of being broke/ in school or job hunting/ frustrated with family/ or just plain old bored, I feel like our interest are completely different.
Sure when I have gone out lately I have been having fun and enjoy hanging out with them but it’s like there is no common grounds. Movie taste are different, music taste vary, clothes, books, food etc. And I feel like half of the time is spend reminiscing about the good old days. I am sick of having to fend myself from people dragging me into things that hold no interest to me (clubbing, romantic comedies etc). It is also depressing to think that all the stuff that I find enjoyable, I mostly do by myself because my friends are disinterested.
What do you do when after 5, 10, 15 years your taste and interest are so different? Saying “Hey we had some good times, but know your taste don’t interest me, see you later” seems harsh and I don’t want people to think that I dislike them because we have different interest. I don’t mind that my friends have other interest, some diversity is good but having almost no common ground is dangerous. Or do you just let things fade, slowly fall out of touch. Be friends on Facebook seeing details of each other’s lives, occasionally commenting but rarely together?
* My college mind set went something along the line of this; read, read, flash card, read, write, eat, run, sleep, repeat.

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